The Most Amazing Thing Ever

There are things you never expect.

There was a lot that these two people didn’t expect back in June 2009.

We had no idea of the amazing we had in store in for us.  There are things that unfold that you are so grateful for that they take your breath away.

In February of 2010 I started a blog. In February of 2010 so did Carver. (FittingCarvertotheT)

We had made a decision to take back our lives. We were on our way to becoming stronger, fitter, healthy.

We were these two daring humans:

We had taken the first flying leaps in the right directions of our life changing journeys. We were on our way to uncovering things we hadn’t imagined possible.

On March 2nd of 2010 we discovered each others blogs. We should have known our connection ran deep when we blogged on the same motivation topic, using the same photo.

Since then we have supported each other along the way, reading one another’s posts, leaving comments, tweeting in support, emailing in tough times. As so many of us in the blogging community know and understand, having someone who gets the process, recognizes how difficult the journey is, appreciates the support and acknowledgement is how we get through. There are some you forge a special kind of “blog bond” with. It was like that all along for T & I. I thought of T as my super hero. Every time they would reach a goal I felt was impossible for myself, or broke through a wall (mental/physical or otherwise) I was feeling like I would never break through it was motivation for me.  I didn’t realize I was serving very much the same purpose for T until much later.

The magic happened this April.  We met in person in Vancouver the first weekend of the month. We never could have guessed what our blogging  friendship over the next couple of months would turn into.

I left Vancouver profoundly missing my friend and wishing we were closer so we could meet more often for 4am tea dates and talking about where our journeys have found us and what’s next. I remember texting them from the plane on the way home to Halifax saying I had thought about driving down to Seattle to see them again before I left. We were emailing more regularly and started texting.

A few weeks later T made a heartfelt confession. They told me they had feelings for me, more than friend feelings. They were worried that would mean our friendship was over.

Instead I accepted what they shared with me, not really knowing what to do. See, I had never considered being with another person of the same-sex romantically before. So over the next few weeks I held her heart in my hands and sorted through what all of that meant for me. And as the days and weeks went by and our relationship unfolded I pulled their heart closer and closer to mine. There was no denying that the connection between us was stronger than anything I had ever experienced.

Love is love. And when you find it you need to open your arms wide and draw it in close. T turned out to be my most amazing thing ever. And I get to thank this life changing journey and decision to start a blog for us finding our connection and  finding one another.

On July 14th I travelled to Tacoma, WA to stay with T for a few weeks. On July 16th we did Warrior Dash, Washington together.

It was our first race together. It was also the beginning of something brand new together. At the end of the race I was asked the biggest question of my life…


 And I have never been more absolutely, positively, certain of anything in my life. My answer was a heartfelt yes.

Yes, I want to marry my Super Hero.


Since we found one another in cyberspace, we have completely transformed our lives and made room for love like we never anticipated.

We have collectively lost almost 240lbs and we have collectively gained a lifetime of love.


Thank you T for being my Most Amazing Thing Ever.






41 comments on “The Most Amazing Thing Ever

  1. Tara August 10, 2011 12:16 pm

    There are a million things I want to say here. I will only say one because I know it will encompass all that I want to tell you:

    (Thank you)

  2. Stacy aka FattyBoobaLatty August 10, 2011 12:19 pm

    WoW – I am over the moon (and bawling). I remember the excitement on Tara’s face when she told me about you in Baltimore – it was joy, ear to ear joy. I see that in your face and I see a light between you two.
    Congratulations to you both.

  3. tricia August 10, 2011 12:25 pm


  4. Rachel August 10, 2011 12:25 pm

    You lost two people’s worth of pain and gained two people’s worth of lifetime love. Awwwwwwwwwwwww. Congratulations!!!

  5. AFG August 10, 2011 12:29 pm

    I love you guys. Awesome. :)

  6. Susan August 10, 2011 12:31 pm

    I stumbled here from RTs on twitter with no idea what I would see or read… That is amazing… Congratulations!!! That’s so exciting!!

  7. Marla August 10, 2011 12:32 pm

    Agree with the most amazing thing ever. Congrats you two!

  8. Vinny Slavin (@VinnySlavin) August 10, 2011 12:34 pm

    Much congrats to the both of you and I wish you many many great years together. You have both been a big inspiration for me on my own journey and now you can start your own journey together.

    Best wishes

  9. Trish August 10, 2011 12:35 pm

    You both are an inspiration to me, your journey and all the amazing things you have accomplished together. I just recently started to get to know you both through Twitter and I have a small sad that I didn’t get a chance to know you before then. As I read this post this quote came to mind :)

    “No sooner met but they looked; no sooner looked but they loved; no sooner loved but they sighed; no sooner sighed but they asked one another the reason; no sooner knew the reason but they sought the remedy” William Shakespeare

    Much love & happiness to the both of you! <3

  10. Tracy August 10, 2011 12:38 pm

    I’m sitting here with the hugest grin on my face.

    You both look SO happy together. :) Congratulations!

  11. Heli August 10, 2011 12:45 pm

    Congratulations, you guys! Wishing you a lifetime of love and joy. <3

  12. mac August 10, 2011 12:49 pm

    Congratulations to two awesome ladies who deserve nothing but the best. I think they found it too!

  13. KyraTX August 10, 2011 12:58 pm

    I am so happy for the two of you. I’m sitting here crying and typing. Congratulations!!!

  14. Bella August 10, 2011 12:59 pm

    I am thrilled for you both. Enjoy your lives together!!

  15. Brandon August 10, 2011 1:14 pm

    Big congrats to both of you, I couldn’t be happier for you two crazy kids! I’ve had a pretty good feeling this news was coming after some of the hints Tara’s been dropping lately, and I’ll happily admit that I got a bit teary eyed seeing that photo of Tara down on one knee in the mud :)

    I feel so privileged to have met both of you and shared the awesome experience together that we did.

  16. Erin August 10, 2011 1:14 pm

    This is an absolutely gorgeous, heart-warming, lovely story. Only in the Internet age, right? Congrats to both of you — wow!

  17. Mary (A Merry Life) August 10, 2011 1:16 pm

    I’m so freaking excited for both of you! I’ve read both of your blogs since you started and though I never expected this to happen it’s ridiculous how awesome it is. I love you both and your story and especially that engagement moment. 😉

    Congrats times a million and enjoy your life together!

  18. Tonyne @ Unlikely Success Story August 10, 2011 1:17 pm

    I have chills! I am so excited for you both even though I only recently found you in the twitter blog world!! How wonderful! Congratulations to you both! :)

  19. seattlerunnergirl August 10, 2011 1:21 pm

    So so so happy for you two. I wondered if being in Vancouver, where your first met IRL, might not be the perfect place for your relationship to come full circle. You both deserve happiness and how poetic that happiness found you two the way that it did. Love you!

  20. camevil August 10, 2011 1:42 pm

    This blew me away and I am near tears. How utterly amazing! Congrats on finding each other and ultimate happiness.

  21. Stacy Medina August 10, 2011 2:26 pm

    As Tara’s friend here in Tacoma, I must say that I am DELIGHTED that she has found you. The smile on her face says more than any words she could utter. I hope I meet you one day…. you must be pretty damn special… may god bless you both in all you do.

  22. Renee August 10, 2011 2:32 pm

    I love this! Congratulations!
    I have a lot to say about this, but my partner and I got married on less than a week’s notice last year. It was beautiful because, well, the idea of a shotgun “gay” wedding was unfamiliar to nearly everyone. The idea that we deserve to get married on a “whim” because we love each other is new for same-sex couples! I love bearing witness to others doing the same!
    You guys are gorgeous. Awesomeness.

  23. sharla @262milejourney August 10, 2011 2:49 pm

    I love you two so much and I am sososososososososo soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy for you! :)

  24. Emily August 10, 2011 5:12 pm


    I am beyond happy for the both of you. I love you two SO MUCH!! Congrats, to two beautiful, strong and empowered women! You’re an inspiration to us all <3 xoxo

  25. MrsFatass August 10, 2011 5:43 pm

    …And they lived happily ever after…

    PS: Your ass looks amazing in that muddy photo.

  26. Misty @ Life Off the D List August 10, 2011 6:06 pm

    As If I was not already a bucket of tears today gaaaa you two I am so happy for you both!

  27. colormeroo August 10, 2011 7:39 pm

    Goosebumps, girls. Absolutely beautiful post.

    PS: Your ass DOES look amazing in the muddy photo! 😉

  28. MizFit August 10, 2011 8:31 pm

    So. Freaking. Happy. Reading. This!!!!!

  29. Elisha August 10, 2011 8:46 pm

    Beautiful ladies, beautiful story! I’m so happy for you!

    Some of the most wonderful things in life have come from the internet (in my life, my husband–and therefore my daughter–and wonderful friends, and learning to love myself).


    So much love.

  30. Kerri O August 10, 2011 9:37 pm

    Awwww, now you went and made me cry.

  31. Jeremy Logsdon August 11, 2011 12:22 pm

    My first comment here, and I first have to say – your webpage name makes me think of the Zeo Rangers. If you don’t get the reference (and why on Earth would you?), then let’s just quietly ignore that dorky comment.

    And secondly – congrats! I wish you a lifetime of happiness together.

  32. Renée (@pinkypie) August 11, 2011 1:02 pm

    wow :) I love you both and wish you amazing happiness and a very long life together xxxx

  33. Nan C August 11, 2011 1:17 pm

    LOVE your story! I’ve followed Tara for a long time on Twitter and could sense the change in her tweets when she met you. Good luck to the both of you! You deserve nothing but the best! Love the pics, you are a gorgeous couple!

  34. Amy August 13, 2011 6:24 pm

    Congratulations! Wishing you both happiness and joy together!

  35. Reagan August 18, 2011 7:02 pm

    Ok, so that’s where you’ve been.


    (crying with joy at my desk)

  36. Chibi Jeebs September 2, 2011 5:54 pm

    I’m BAWLING at my desk at work (shhh!) and I don’t even know you two! What a beautiful love story. Thank you for sharing it. :)

  37. Angeles Damil September 10, 2011 9:49 am

    A beautiful love story that touch my heart! Your personal journeys to get healthy is truely inspirational and It’s soooo wonderful that you found each other the way you did. The wedding pictures are so special. I wish you both all the best in the world. Congradulations!!

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