Finding #mybetter & Giving Better Away

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Christmas Came & Christmas Went

Here in Canada it’s Boxing Day. AKA December 26th. Tara tells me they don’t have “Boxing Day” in the US of A. They have the day of shopping and super sales on December 26th. We have shopping and super sales too on Boxing Day, but not here on the East Coast where everything is still closed for the Statutory Holiday until December 27th. Then the shopping begins for many here too.

I don’t plan on shopping this year. Our Christmas was lovely. We spent Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas morning Tara had the chance to catch up with her family on FaceTime and text. Christmas Day was quiet mostly in our PJs with my parents and my brother ans sister-in-law. We had brunch and played some games together before Turkey Dinner.

I will confess to indulging in the 24 hours of Christmas. I will confess to having a tear filled melt down moment on Christmas Day. I will admit that I can see the clear connection between the sugar and the carbs and my emotions. It’s not a pretty combination. It is so easy to feel as though everything is bigger than it really is when I just.keep.stuffing.sugar.in my face.

So today is Boxing Day. Today there isn’t the same desire to relax and indulge. Today Tara and I got up and went to bootcamp and got our sweat on. I will confess to swearing during the Russian twist Medicine Ball Slams. I burned 550 calories in that 54 minute session. I needed it. Then we came home and made a delicious brunch full of nutritious, non-processed, good-for-us food.

This is my #mybetter.

  • It’s taking ONE decision at a time. Remembering the things that are important to me.
  • It’s reminding myself when I do something that is in line with what is important, that I need to recognize it.
  • It’s NOT comparing where I am at right now with anyone else. (even when that feels impossible).
  • It’s remembering that I need to have some goals the horizon to keep moving towards. They help me stay focused.
  • It’s trying my very best to remember that life is better when I put myself first.
  • It’s moving this body of mine and pushing to get stronger, faster, better.
  • It’s remembering that true health and living life to the fullest means moving, resting, eating well and finding joy.

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A Gift

Tara asked me before Christmas what I needed. She’s been a little worried about this funky-funk that I’ve found myself in of late. If I’m being honest, so am I. But I’m still trying. Everyday I’m trying. And under the Christmas tree she gifted me with 3 months to work with the ever-so-amazing Mara Glatzel. I’m a very lucky girl. In so very many ways.

Part of #mybetter will be working with Mara to uncover all of the ways I can move on through whatever this is that’s happening with me right now. One of the most incredible things about working with Mara is that she has this way of reminding me of all of very important things I already know but I have a bad habit of forgetting. (Like, I’m seriously worth it.)

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 A Giveaway for your Path to Better

So enthusiasm is contagious. I know it. And I want to catch your enthusiasm. From the holiday excitement, for the things you’re looking forward to in 2013. And I’d love to be able to help you catch some enthusiasm about finding your better too. So with a little help from SportChek  and their #mybetter campaign I get to give away $100 giftcard to help you.

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The contest is open until New Year’s Day when I’ll pick a random winner. I can’t wait to read about all of the ways you’re working towards your own personal better on this life changing journey. And I really can’t wait to see what’s in store for us in 2013.

Comments

  1. I am not leaving a comment to be a part of the giveaway…

    I’ve already won to greatest of gifts I could ask for.

    (no it’s not a unicorn – made you smile)

    Mimi listen, life is about learning and discovering. It’s about patience for others but more importantly for yourself. It’s about making those decisions that need to be made and knowing that you have the support of someone that cares deeply enough to follow wherever you want to go (proverbially and physically). It’s about being scared of what’s in front of us but being more scared to just stand in the place we don’t want to be any longer.

    I believe in you.
    I trust you.
    I love you.

    ~ T

  2. I’m so flipping proud of you! You have so much light in you, it shines even when you can’t see it yourself. I’m proud to know you.

  3. I look forward to a new a career and being the healthiest me I can be!

  4. Molly Bussler says:

    You sound like you make the world a better place!

  5. Mimi, you do kick ass! You are an is pertain to more people than you think!
    Just keep on rocking life and being as amazing as you are! Love you sister!

  6. I too had a mini meltdown over Christmas as weight loss is once again a goal yet to be achieved. I also know that I can do this so my better is not giving up and taking each day as it comes.

  7. I’ve been in a funk this past month or so as well so I feel your pain. But you know, you’re an amazing woman who is deserving of so much. You rock!

    My way of bettering myself is launching a new weight loss focused blog that will help me work on accountability, goals, and hopefully inspiring others. I’m excited for what lies ahead and can’t wait to see how this works out.

  8. Thanks for hosting this giveaway!
    My better looks like what I have become today, the last 3 years have been nothing but full out determination. After having my baby, at 4 weeks postpartum I started exercising…and never stopped! I learned how to run because of a life changing event a year ago. I am now, the fastest and strongest I have ever been in my life! I have goals to achieve for next years set of races, like being faster and running farther. My better started a while ago, but you can never be the best..because there is always something “better” to work towards!

  9. Great post! I can really relate to lots…never realized how important goals were until I reached most of mine, and now that I’m here, I feel pretty lost and don’t know what to do. So I guess my big goal now is to seriously sit down and make some new ones so I can get back to “my better”!

  10. Hey. I’m sorry that you’re in a bit of a funk right now. It happens to all of us now and again. I really think that the key is for you to just feel what you’re feeling, not stress out about it too much, and when the time comes to just pick yourself up and dust yourself off and push forward again, you will do it. You’ve come too far in your life to throw in the towel now. Have the faith in yourself that others — like Tara — do. :-)

    As for me, I think that my better in 2013 is all about finding greater balance in my life. I tend to be all or nothing with things. I need to figure out how to be less black and white about everything.

  11. I started #mybetter (unbeknownst to me) when my husband of 15 yrs and I decided to separate. It wasn’t easy but it was necessary. I realized soon after this decision that for so many years I was living in a hopeless state of mind. My future with him was not where I wanted my life to be/go. But you become so complacent with the way life is you don’t see the possibilities that are yours for the taking. Once the decision to separate was made I quickly started to see all the possibilities available to me. I began to hope again. To dream again. To feel again. One of the biggest things I did was took a chance and joined the gym. I had a visceral aversion to gyms and moving my body in general. The thought of anyone seeing my body move like that felt so exposing. It was my greatest vulnerability. But like most things in my life fate took over. Someone gave the gym my name and number. They called me and asked their silly marketing questions. I was actually downright rude to them as my defences took over. Then the offer of one week free and to come in and get a tour came in the conversation. Not sure where my response came from, but I rudely said ‘Fine.’ I told no one I had set this up so I could quietly not go if I changed my mind. Right up to the last minute before my appointment I was still leaning towards not going. But I went. I went with all my defences in high gear. I said things like if the person I deal with lacks compassion and understanding and is just a superficial sales person I’m going to walk right out. So I went. Parked my car and started walking towards the building. First thing I see is a wall of treadmills with fit men looking at me (at least in my mind they were) asking themselves ‘good god, what is she doing coming in here?? She doesn’t belong in here!’ I was a wall of defensiveness. I went in and approached the front desk. Attitude in high gear. I did my best not to look around this huge room of gym equipment and people who all belonged there. I didn’t want to see anyone looking at me with that look of judgement. I met with my sales girl. We sat at a table in front of everyone. I might as well have been naked I felt that exposed. She started asking her questions. When she got to ‘so what are your fitness goals?’ I started to cry. I couldn’t help it. The emotions of this experience were so intense. I went to a gym once or twice when I was a teenager and promptly stopped going because I felt I didn’t belong there. I didn’t know how to exercise. I felt I looked ridiculous when my body moved. All the fat moving was disgusting and no one should see that. Including me. So I stopped. Never to do anything like that again until now. I was so so afraid that someone would tell me how disgusting I was it paralyzed me from trying to move my body. Truth is I was the only one saying that. I am a control freak. Hair just right. Makeup just right. Clothes that fit and cover but look good and professional. I project a strong and confident personality. In fact those are the qualities most used to describe me. But I had a dark side that I thought no one could see. I was overweight and unfit. I had fooled myself for years into thinking no one could tell. If I just stayed within the parameters of my controlled situations like work, home, social situations that did not involve movement I could keep my secret. Wtf??? The only person I was kidding was myself. It was painfully obvious to all around me I was doing this. And if anyone tried to bring this to my attention, my denial just went deeper. Otherwise I would spiral out of control and die of mortification that people weren’t seeing me the way I wanted them to…the way I wanted to see myself. There were a few events that started to break me out of this thinking. But let’s be clear I was still very immersed in this mindset.

    So there I was totally vulnerable in the middle of a gym surrounded by hard bodies crying. Awesome. Ashley was a doll. She shared her sister’s story with me. She wanted to lose over 100 lbs and wanted to join the join the gym. She wanted Ashley to help her. And she did. And her sister achieved her goals. I glanced over and saw a lady who was larger than I was that had just finished a workout. She was beaming with pride. She commented that she lost 3 lbs this week. She was so happy…and not afraid. I immediately realized I was being silly. This was not about people judging me and telling me what I can or can’t do. This was about what I want for myself and I needed to decide if the risk was worth the reward. I had a great chat with Ashley. She got my walls to come down. Then a friend of mine who is a trainer at this gym walked by. I called out to her. She came over and was very excited to see I made the decision to come in. She gave me a hug and I started to cry again. More release of the years of fear. We ended up doing the tour and when we went into the women’s gym I felt completely at ease. I immediately felt ‘I can do this!’ At the end of the appointment I had signed up and had a gym membership. I HAD A GYM MEMBERSHIP!!! I met with my trainer friend got a very gentle routine to start. I was so pumped after that session because I see myself doing this. The next hurdle was going by myself. Which I did and again with the feeling of self empowerment. It’s been rather busy with the holidays and I ended up getting sick, but I did go again and plan to keep going as much as I can. Baby steps. I have already accomplished so much in a very short period of time and I’m so excited about the new challenges and changes to come. I finally feel like I deserve this. Still not comfortable with moving my jiggly parts in public but that will come. #mybetter is just beginning.

  12. My better is looking good for 2013 – active and eating better. Happy New Year to You!

  13. My better is remembering that I feel better (physically and mentally) when I do my yoga regularly and when I move. I don’t have to do hardcore exercise but I do need to be active. Life is better that way.

  14. Charles Mandel says:

    #mybetter would consist of more core work, greater flexibility and maintaining proper hydration. Thanks for the post.

  15. Thanks for the blog post, I appreciate reading it. As for me, I am training for a 1/2 marathon in April, my first. I also want to lose 20lbs that I am holding on to, by eating better and moving more. I am also trying to maintain balance in my work/ family life. Best to you and Tara.

  16. I’m working on eating clean and exercising regularly. I need to figure out if that exercise is going to include running or not. I kind of hate it, but it’s definitely a challenge, and that’s good too.

  17. My better will be starting 2013 with a 5k walk….running will come as my injury heals!!

  18. I somehow stumbled upon your blog…I am a fellow East Coast Canadian..:) Happy New Year!

  19. Btw, “my better” better get here by February! I am heading on a trip to see Maroon5 and have 8lbs left of baby weight from baby #4….ha!! Bodycombat and running hardcore until then!

  20. #mybetter includes new running and career goals for a new year!

  21. Brandy Herigon says:

    My better is to actually set goals. Write them down. Write them DOWN. They will be baby steps. But I really, really want better in my life. So thankful for your blog. Thanks for being you!

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